Tuesday, August 03, 2010

My life now

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I know some of you only come here for decorating inspiration and if so you may not want to read any further. My blog has never really been just about decorating...I've tried to add a little more personal touch to it but I know this drives some people crazy! Please don't leave me grumpy comments about what I should or shouldn't blog about... 

Thank you all so much for the feedback on possibly selling my hutch. I never expected that kind of response!  I'm amazed at how insightful some of you are.  Many of you noticed that I seem to be changing a lot lately so I want to explain what happens to me every ten years...I panic when I'm about to turn into the next decade of my life.  It started when I turned 30...I felt like I was getting old so I went bungee jumping! 

Before I was about to turn 40 I lost a lot of weight and felt good about myself but I woke up that morning crying.  That sounds so foolish now...40 seems so young to me now that I'm about to turn THE BIG 5-0

So now that I'm about to turn 50 next month (which I can't believe) I see myself going through much of the same feelings.  I've lost weight (25 lbs so far), cut my hair, went blonder, joined online dating sites and I know it all has to do with that stupid number!   I don't look at this as something negative though...quite the opposite. It feels good to reinvent myself a little bit once in awhile! I actually feel so much better than I did a couple months ago which is a great thing...especially when you are about to turn 50!
The dating thing has been very interesting. I'm just enjoying the process this time. I've met some nice guys... five in person so far. Of those five, there was only one that I really wanted to see again.  (it's the guy on the white horse for those of you who follow me on Facebook). As we were leaving the place where we met, he told me he would love to see me again which made me very happy. We exchanged a couple emails before he left on a business trip. Then I NEVER HEARD FROM HIM AGAIN! ha...men! I'll never understand them! I can tell he's been on the online dating site so I know he's okay. Oh well....on to the next!

So bear with me as I turn 50 and don't be surprised if you see me jumping out of an airplane (with a parachute of course)!



Seawashed said...

I can't believe you are almost 50! You are beautiful...and youthful. You may enjoy my post today...it is about finding beauty in every stage of life(every age) through the view of roses.

Kathysue said...

Cindy, I think it is good to make posetive changes in your life at any age and it sounds as if you are going onward and upward. I always say as long as you keep moving forward it is a good thing. I loved my forties, my fifties were the decade of feeling my age and that was not always a good thing but you are losing weight and getting healthier so that is a good thing. If you don't grow and change you will become stagnant and that is not a good thing. I say,"YOU go GIRL!!" Can't wait to see where you wind up!! Hugs Kathysue

Kathysue said...

PS You look amazing and love, the new hair cut. I kind of miss the red, it was so pretty!!!

Debbiedoos said...

Well you certainly look gorgeous and happy right now! I say go with the flow...enjoy what you are doing..you sound like you have a good attitude and enjoy life just the same, so if you want to jump out of a plane,make sure the parachute works first. I hope I get some guts as a I get older...I used to have the guts for anything risky...now that I am older I panic with fear...which is sad because I hold back on many things I should be doing. Well I have two sons that make up for it, so I guess it's all good:) And yes post what you want on your blog...I do and have received weird comments a here and there about my content..but I take ownership in it, if they don't like it, bug off go to the next there are million other blogs out here. Have a great day CIndy!

Kelly Bergsing said...

I feel the same way! I normally do it every 5 years. It makes you feel so good to reinvent yourself. It is like decorating... sometimes you want little knick knacks everywhere, and sometimes you want a more minimalist look. You do what makes you feel good about yourself. And if anyone complains you are sharing personal stuff and they just want decorating, well they can just go take a long walk off a short bridge.... :0)

A Southern Rose said...

I am so happy for you Cindy. Change is good. I'm a tough cookie though...I tend to stay in my comfort zone and not change too much. You have inspired me from the beginning with your blog and your decorating and now you are doing it again. I feel many changes coming on in my near future. I'm only a few short years behind you in age. Thank you so much for being an inspiration to us all. You are a beautiful person inside and out.

Lee Laurie

Anonymous said...

Ahhhh.... That magic number 50. By the time I turned 50 I really didn't even think of my age in numbers. I am about to be 59 in October & I just say I am on the business side of 60!! LOL!!
I find there are some things I am too old for & some things that I am still too young for.....
Just enjoy & as for the dude on the horse..... Don't look so high up on the pedistal!!

Katy Noelle said...

Real is good. Change is fresh. Change is being alive.

I used to run a tea room and, one day, I had a very interesting conversation with a lone gentleman that had come in. I was in my twenties, then, and we were discussing how we liked every age of a person - how they're all just different. I, then, confessed that I thought that the best times were before 30 and after 60. (Now, I know that people in their 30s aren't boring, they're just really desperately busy establishing their lives.=]) Well, this man protested and said that there was nothing more beautiful than a 50 yr old woman. He said that they are in their absolute prime of life. They know who they are and are powerfully beautiful. I started thinking about it and I totally can see what he means. Happy "turning 50 time of your life"!

Love, Katy Noelle

Dogwood said...

Oh, I am so proud of you. I like your attitude. Keep moving forward and approach each day with the postiive. I like you adventurous spirit. Keep that alive and journey in life will be very rewarding! Dogwood

A Whole Lotta Magic said...

Turning 50 (2 years ago) was the best thing that ever happened to me! Relax; you're gonna love it!


Helen said...

You look just great! I love your haircut and the color...I must consider a style like yours the next time I sit in my stylist's chair! I am going to be 69 next month! I have to say that when I turned 40, I didn't think it could be greater, but when I turned 50 ... it was. And when I turned 60 ... even better! Now, just a little over a year from turning 70? Glad to be here!!!! Single and alive! Bravo to you!!!

All things nice... said...

Good on you, you look much younger and at the end of the day age is just a number! You can make changes any time you like. I forget sometimes what age I am and then I have to remember what year I was born in :)Never mind the men thing, I thought I'd never find a nice man and low and behold I found one! Good things come to those who wait! :)

All things nice...

Anonymous said...

Hello Cindy, Oh, I know so well about this. My life changed at my own need and doing several times over also: re-inventing oneself: so true.
Wishing you all that you need and let the good things keep coming !
Don't we all look better when we loose weight ? sigh////hmmmm
Lieve groeten
Godeliva van Ariadone

Diane said...

I am turning 58 in October, and it scares the bejebbers out of me!!! But I try and stay young at heart.....I don't think I'm that old, except when I bend down in a shop and then try to get up like I used to....but you look great, have a great attitude....and blog about whatever you want, I find that most people that are "rude" on a blog, don't even have one themselves...so to heck with them, I have had a few weirdo's I just "delete"...gives me great pleasure...lol!!! Only other thing I can say is "keep that hutch"...it is beautiful, if not I'll send you my address...haha!!!
Well.....50 isn't so bad, I spent mine on Mackinaw Island....it was such an adventure I didn't even think about being 50....I should blog about it sometime...too funny.....have a nice week!!!

Brenda Pruitt said...

You look fantastic, first of all! And men: I'll never understand them so I might as well stop trying. I like that you are getting more personal in your posts. It shows more individuality and your personality shines. You're a magnificent decorator, but I like to see more of "you." Don't you worry. Turning 50 is great. Better than 30 or 40. I'm now 53, and happier than I've ever been. So come join us over 50 gals and we'll have a ball! Men or no!

The Charm of Home said...

You are beautiful and still young! It is just a number. It is fabulous to reinvent yourself! It is something I have done on several occasions. Changing things up keeps you fresh and gives you a whole new sense of who you are and what you are capable of.

GwendolynKay said...

No way, you don't look near 50! I think we all need to reinvent ourselves once in a while. What better time to do it than a birthday.. it is a gift to yourself.

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vignette design said...

You go girl! 50 is the new 40 I keep saying! It's good to reinvent ourselves every so often. You look fabulous!

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aguzman918 said...

Oh Cindy I am so understanding you! That was me two years ago. BUT.... I must say that my son turning 30 this year was a wee bit more shocking to me than I turning 50 - go figure. My sister is 10 years older than I and her daughter is 10 years younger. So for our 40 - 50 - 60 Birthday's we planned a girls weekend going to San Fran and Carmel for spa time and site seeing. My son got married a few months before I turned 50, so that was a big year for me. I too cut my hair, got on an exercise program that I'm still on and kept the 30 pounds off and now I am totally updating our house - going from traditional to contemporary style, maybe it's the younger vibe I get being in that style of decorating. Good Luck to you and your venture in turning 50.

Glenda/MidSouth said...

Your blog - blog about what you want to. It is amazing there are people out there that think us bloggers should jump thru their hoops. If someone does not like what someone posts about, they have the freedom to move on. There - I just had to say that! :-D
I have a saying on my fridge "Live you life and forget your age".
As far as the one that did not contact you again - Maybe there was something about him that you did not want to know about anyway.:D
Congratulations on the weight loss and I like your hair.

Sharon said...


I understand where your coming from. After I turned 50 (I am 57 now)I actually started takiing better care of myself and right now I love being 57. My boys are grown, my husband retired and I am enjoying doing whatever I want to. I pray that you will meet someone you can love and share a life with. Don't give up, or give in. You do what makes you feel good.


Glenda/MidSouth said...

That is suppose to be "your life" not you. Can't type today.

Victoria said...

You are beautiful on the inside and the outside:) I sure wish I could lose 25lbs!

30 really freaked me out but for some reason, 40 didn't bother me at all. Maybe because I was too busy to even notice it at that time!

As for the dating thing, at leat you're getting out there and meeting people! If something good comes along then that would be wonderful but in the meantime just enjoy:)

Ms. Bake-it said...

I cannot believe you are almost 50! You look fabulous! The only birthday that bothered me was my 30th. I barely noticed turning 40 and I love the current stage/age of my life.

As for what you post on your blog, that is YOUR choice. You are evolving and your blog is a part of you therefore it will evolve also. If some of your readers do not like it, well my goodness they can just skip reading that particular post and move on.

Just enjoy your life Cindy and live it to the fullest!

~ Tracy

Sunnysidesue said...

Cindy, What's happening to you isn't anything unusual...it happens to all us women as we age. (especially hitting the 'new decade' mark). But, you seem to be in a great place in so many ways & you've got the right attitude. Just wanted to tell you that my 50's were the happiest, sexiest, most exciting years of my life. (other than when I was raising my 2 sons). I look back now and remember how great I looked & felt and wish I could do it all over again! Turning 60 is the pits! Just enjoy your life now & know how very fortunate you are &how many friends you have. You're going to be great & my advice is to enjoy that birthday coming up & embrace your beauty...both inside & out. HUGS....

Sissie's Shabby Cottage said...

Turning 50 really isn't so bad Cindy. I turned 60 this year and it's not so bad. In fact, I found that in my late fifties I became more accepting of who I am and my looks. I stopped worrying about my imperfections and started enjoying life.
I'm glad that I'm not in the dating scene. I've been married for 36 years.
You are a beautiful woman and I think you should enjoy.


GratefulPrayerThankfulHeart said...

Hey Cindy, Thanks for the sweet and personal post :) I find you and your blog a joy to visit and wish you much happiness now and into your next ten years. Looking great, girl fiend!

Elsie said...

Cindy~ YOU LOOK AWESOME!!! I love
your hair and congrats on losing
the weight. I thought you looked
a lot skinner in that little bitty
picture on the side of your comment. Honey 50 is only a number,
heck I'm 60 and I still get up and
dance with the grandchildren and
when I did the slits one night we
were dancing I thought my grandchildren were going to roll.
They didn't know I used to take
dancing and have been doing that
forever.LOL. Hey if you don't hear
back from a guy I would say that
is his loss. Funny you should mention a plane, that is exactly
what my friend did. She lost her hubby right at her 60th b'day so she wanted to do something wild &
crazy. She is crazy and that was
wild.haha. So see you need to
wait until your 60 for that one.
I like your personal part on your
blog, it makes me feel like I know
you a little better. I do consider
you a friend.Good luck with the dating.":O)

Elsie said...

That was splits Cindy.

Claudia said...

You will never get a grumpy email from me when you talk about things that are important to you. This is your blog. You can write whatever you feel like!

I have done the same thing every time I hit a new decade. Something about that number does it for me. You look wonderful, by the way. I love your new haircut and the blonder look! Good for you. We don't get older, we get better.


Anonymous said...

I enjoy your posts, whatever the subject.
I'll be turning 50 in the spring....so your posts are insightful and interesting to me.
Btw, you look TERRIFIC.

A New England Life said...

Life certainly is full of surprises and you never know what will come your way. A friend of mine who has been single for 20 years, and NOT looking, just happened upon someone recently who was divorced 8 years ago. She's a hair dresser and was doing his mothers hair, so you just never know where a relationship will come from!

I wish you a wonderful Birthday, Cindy!

And I agree, getting older can be more than a little scary, no matter how good you look!

Joan said...

Happy 50 to you and to your 'new life.' When I turned 50 over 10 years ago I panicked a little too but I'll tell you in all honesty, it was one of the best decades of my life. My attitudes changed, my worrying about what people thought changed, and best of all... I became a granddmother and realized I had a chance to grow up with my grands... if indeed I wanted to grow up at all..lol.
Happy upcoming spectacular birthday.

Carol Bennett said...

You won't get grumpy from me! I think you look wonderful and we are all bloggy friends and friends are interested in all phases of your life!! You go girl!! I turned 58 this year and loving every minute!
Carol in GA

Biljana said...

Hi Cindy!
I feel the same way, I am 51( the best Jahrs, ha, ha).
I say, "you go girl"!
Hugs, Biljana

Beca said...

I know exactly what you mean. We all go through these emotional stages where we think we need to go change ourselves a bit. It's only natural and you are no different than anybody else. Good luck in the dating department. Your a beautiful person and the right man will come along at the right time.

Judi said...

I gotcha girl! You know what I did as I inched towards 50. And, thank God I did....it's changed my life forever!
Oh, and BTW...I don't come to your site JUST FOR DECORATING....I need so much more!! LOL!
P.S. congrats on the weight loss and if I didn't tell you yet--your hair looks great!

Debbie Petras said...

Cindy, it's your blog and you can write whatever you like. Ha, wasn't that a song from the past? Oh no, it was her party.

Anyway, I understand the big 5-0 thing. I'm now 57 so I'm inching towards the 6-0 age. Yuck! But if you're healthy and look the best you can, age isn't such an issue any more.

I thought of the recent preview I saw for Julia Roberts' new movie that is coming out soon called "Eat. Pray. Love." It sounds like a fun movie for this point in your life.

Happy upcoming birthday and btw, I love your new hairstyle.


sactovlr said...

It's your blog and you can write what you like....but I must admit I miss all your great design projects and great photos -- baking and cooking recipes and all that --- the first reason I bookmarked your blog. But blogs and life evolve and if people don't like what you are currently writing about, they just don't have to read it!

Egads 50! A milestone I have recently met myself and god knows I too should lose 25lbs! So congrats on this current change and best wishes on all aspects of your life - both in decorating and in love!

Melanie@TheOldWhiteCottage said...

You look gorgeous! Love the new hair!

Maura @ Kisiwa Creek Photography said...

Good for you Cindy! This is what keeps us young...change and trying new things. This is a perfect opportunity for another change so GO FOR IT...have fun! Maura :)

Marilyn said...


Age is just a number, a simple unit of measure. Staying healthy, active and living life to it's fullest is what it's all about!

When I hear people bemoan getting older, I always recall one of my favorite sayings: Old age is a privilege denied to many.

Truly, every birthday is a privilege. :-)

Marilyn (in Dallas)

Nellie's Cozy Place said...


A 50 + Virgo said...

You sound like a typical Virgo (or close to one ;) ENJOY your fabulous style and your aspirations for continued self-improvement and healthy living!

Good riddance to the guy who couldn't communicate. He saved you a lot of time to be on with your open and honest life.

Don't you wish you could "DELETE" the grumpies in real-life. Is there an app. for that?

Becky from Tennessee said...

Cindy, first of all, I love
your hair and you look so
happy! Secondly, I think
what you blog about is your
business! Yes, I love to see
your beautiful home and read
your decorating tips but I'm
also enjoying reading about
your life. I don't understand
why anyone would leave a rude
comment. What you write about
is your business..after all, it
is YOUR blog, isn't it?? I'm
from the South and was taught
by my sweet Mom that "if you
can't say anything nice, then
don't say anything at all." I
certainly don't think this is
just a southern thing but perhaps
the people leaving rude comments
didn't learn this lesson. Just
remember how many people vist
your blog and love it!!

Enjoy your week!

Enjoy your week.

Kay said...

thats a great picture of you cindy and remember 50 is just a number...i've past that number now and you know it hasn;t made any difference to me....as long as you are happy in yourself that is all that matters.

Traci @ The Bakery said...

My sister turned 50 in June and I did a whole blog post on it! Did you know that you can get a Silver Dollar City season pass just by showing your driver's license as they turn 50 this year also! Same for couples celebrating 50 years of marriage...they have to show license. CONGRATS on your milestone....EMBRACE IT!!!

Persian_princess said...

Cindy, you are a lovely lady and don't look your age at all! When I turned 40 three years ago, I really had a hard time believing that I was at that age in my life. How did time go by so fast? But I can tell you that age really is a number. I feel like I'm still in my 20's. I have friends of ALL ages, many of whom are in their 20's. I am trying to lose weight and take better care of myself. And it's women like you who inspire me and encourage me to embrace all aspects of my life and not be afraid of getting older. My mom is 67 and she has the figure and attitude of a 25 year old and does not look near her age. She inspires me a great deal too. Congratulations on looking so great and having such a wonderfully positive attitude. Have fun with your online dating. I did that for a couple of years and had fun and met a lot of interesting guys too and lo and behold, finally found the ONE! Oh, and as far as I'm concerned, I love that you share some of your life with us and besides, it's YOUR blog! You go lady!

(eddas) said...

Really good write:)I se the big 50 number is coming for me to...and it scares me a litle:)
You look great Cindy...life begins at 50:)And I say the same as yoy....I never will understand men:)
Take care.....I love your blog and that you show us a litle of your personal life....thank you for sharing...

Anonymous said...

Good for you and the re-invention. I am 47 and am dreading yes,dreading the big 50. You look great!!!! Hope your online dating thing goes well, as for me have been married to a wonderful man for 25 yrs. (hope I don't find myself single I think I have forgotton that whole dating thing. I sooo enjoy the blog, It's refreshes my mind and soul. Kamara Johnson RDH

Judy said...

Cindy, I know with all your followers you can't possibly remember everyone but you are the one that started me blogging 3 years ago after I found you on RMS. So I have been a faithful reader all these years.

Let me say this about turning 50....I will be 59 in Sept. and this has been my best decade yet! I went through an ugly divorce in 1996 but did not date. I met my now husband when I turned 50 (he was 38) and we will be married 7 years in October! All my grandchildren have been born this decade and I have another one due in about 4 weeks so our lives are full. I know that "60" is looming for me and I'm a little scared of that but it's just a number.

Keep on "keeping on" and the right man will turn up when it's the right time.

Happy "almost" 50!

Janet said...

It's just a number Cindy. I hope I remember this in 5 months when I turn the big 6-0. Now that is a scary number, at least to me.

What you choose to blog about is your business, I for one enjoy the personal aspects and getting to know you better.

PS. sorry about the Jag dent, I don't have any solutions for dents ;)

House and Garden Boutique said...

Life begins at 50! I feel younger now than I did when I was 25. It probably has a lot to do with the fact that my kids are grown now. However, life is really good now! You are going to love being in your fifties! Really like your new hair style....very chic & sassy!

Esther Sunday said...

I just love you, girl. You look FAB!!!!! I got a tat when I turned 40 - just because it was something I always secretly wanted to do, but felt like I shouldn't. I love your attitude... I think being in your 40s and even 50s (and maybe beyond) was a woman appears to be very liberating. The best is yet to come for you!!!!

Cindy said...

Esther: I expected a "YAY Roberto" from you today! haha!

Tanya said...

I think it's great to make changes and at least you only get drastic every 10 years! ha ha

Alaina said...

My first thought was you look very young for your age. I have never been one for numbers determining how I SHOULD feel. I know we can say all the nice things to make you feel good about yourself but in the end it is you who has to believe all of these wonderful things for it to work. I wish you a wonderful birthday to be. I would say that I would jump with you but, I don't think I could do that. Be proud of yourself for all that you have done to get you to where you are now. As for the dating thing, be picky, and enjoy yourself, do not take it personal, know that you are a beautiful woman and it is all for fun.

Pam @ Frippery said...

Turning 50 for me was like the beginning of a whole new life. I found it to be freeing in a lot of ways. Enjoy your journey and know that you are a lovely talented woman and an inspiration to many. Reinvention is good for the soul and there is beauty in every phase of life. (Now I would love to lose 25 lbs too, or maybe 55!) Congrats on that!

Dawn said...

I've heard a lot of women say turning 50 was liberating. Maybe it takes us that long to finally come into our own, to really know our selves. I'm five years behind you so I'll find out in a while!Regardless of age you are a true inspiration, not just in decor but in life!

Cindy said...

Dearest Cindy,
It's your blog and I think you can write about ANYTHING you want to write about! I quite understand the turning 50 thing, I'm 52 now and I'm over it, I think. I just want to be healthy and fit for my healths sake.
Hugs, Cindy S

Cami @ Creating Myself said...

You look great Cindy! I turn 50 in December...maybe I should follow your example & lose some weight & get a new do. Although I think hubby would frown about an online dating site. LOL

Seriously, Cindy....50 is gonna look soooo good on you...you go girl!

Susan said...

Cindy you look really good for a 50 year old person. I wish I looked half as good as you.
Girl you have some great insight into your self. Every new birthday or decade or whatever brings change. And from what I have seen just by you turning 50, your changes are very good.
You never have to explain about what you post on your blog......it is your blog!! I think it is great how you taking steps to make yourself feel better and look better.

Crystal Rose Cottage said...

Hi Cindy! I think you look absolutely wonderful with the new look and I am with you 100%! Have fun with your life in anyway you choose! YOU GO GIRL!~ Big hugs, Patti

mariondee-designs said...

Hi Cindy, my motto is you're only as old as you want to be! Firstly you can write about whatever you want on your blog..I like to know the person behind the decorating. Secondly I can TOTAALLY relate to your post today. I was ok up till 49 but when that big 5.0. came round I actually heard alarm bells ringing and wanted everything I had postphoned doing in my home.. done! There's just something about that f word that scared the crap out of me! I was a little miserable for a while. Then it hit me, you're only as old as you want to be, you can be depressed about it or just go on living life to the fullest. After all it's only a number. I think it's not the fact that I'm 50 now, it's more that I still have so much I'd like to do in my life..I still have dreams to fulfill and inside I really feel like I should only be in my 30's. Anyhow, I'm sure you will be fine and besides, you look no where near 50, you look great! I truly thank the Lord to be where I am and to have reached 50. I don't worry about the number anymore. Just stay happy and you will be forever young! take care, Maryann

Bonnie said...

Ah 50! It is all good. I am past 50 and I wouldn't go back for anything. It gets better and better. Enjoy each day and congrats on the reinvention. And I cannot believe anyone would grumble about what you blog about...really? Send 'em packing!

The Polka Dot Closet said...

Don't you just hate the life cycle!! Enjoy 50 because at 60 your going to look back just like you did at 40. If you are really happy who cares!


Angela said...

You look beautiful. I hope I look that good at 50. Men are weird. Stay true to you. Enjoy the little things.

Jill said...

You go, girl!! Many of my friends are now entering their 50's and they are amazing women-- hotter than ever, more empowered than ever, and loving life!
PS: LOVE your cute hair-do!!

Anonymous said...

Hi Cindy! No way! You're almost 50? You certainly don't look it and I adore your pretty new hair style!
My advise, being I'm so much older :), you just enjoy every second of your life. You post on what you want and we'll still all come! I love to see your beautiful home but I also love to learn a little more about the beautiful Cindy behind 'My Romantic Home'.
Take care, Dear One, Happy Birthday and you are a sweetie,
Shelia ;)

Debbie said...

Seriously....turning 50 is a blessing! I'm glad I made it this far!!!! and I'm 56. Good for you losing weight. That is an accomplishment...I'd love to lose some poundage. Your hair is sooo cute! Age doesn't bother me...it's quality of life. We need to keep doing the things we love for as long as we can do them. A woman came into the pharmacy today. Kim is in a wheelchair now. She's in her early 40's. Kim has MS. She just got a tatoo, and her nose pierced. She inspires me with her positive attitude and sense of humor. Kim also just got her long hair cut off. She looks great! Whenever she comes in, I feel so blessed to know her.
Moral here? Live life to the fullest!!! no matter what age, or what situation you are in.
Hugs to you honey.

Allison said...

Cindy - You look beautiful! Reading your post today I have to say that I sure can relate except for the dating part because I am married. I am turning 50 in 2 days! I've had a lot of ups and downs about the big 5-0 but am trying to embrace it. My mom's life was cut so short by cancer and she taught me to celebrate each and every age and live life to the fullest. But, your post today was like reading my own feelings. I'm off tomorrow to change my hairdo before the big day. You are a beautiful and talented woman and have lots to offer. Do what makes you happy! I enjoy reading your post about your decorating, dating or whatever it may be.

Jonny said...

Hi, Beautiful picture of you and post.You have a wonderful attitude. I think for myself at 49 its time that I want to live for myself and do what makes me happy In my 40s I always lost sight of actually taking care of myself and wanting to please everyone now I feel I am comming into a stage of my life where I want to change priorities.My best to you sincerely, Jonny

Ginger said...

OMG Cindy, I love your hair color. It is really flattering on you. Congrats on the weight loss, wish I could lose some weight. You are so adorable, I would think any guy would want to date you.
I am getting ready to turn 65 in a couple of weeks and I can't believe it. Where have all the years gone? Enjoy life as much as you can, it goes by way too fast.

Terri said...

Hi Cindy,
I think you and I are about the only two single blogging ladies out there, at least judging by what I've seen..... And I've wondered why you haven't gotten out there and dated a bit. I've been single a year and recently met a wonderful man online. My kids love him, I love him, and life is GOOD. With the kids basically out and on their own, dating at this stage of life works well, doesn't it? It might take a while, but you'll find someone to celebrate the new decade with, I just know it. I'm 54 and don't feel a day over 29. (Except when I look in the mirror!) LOL

momma-o-minnie said...

Fifty isn't that bad. I think it is what you make it. It was tougher to have my husband leave me with all my kids than it was to turn 50.
It's just another day.
You look stunning and I know that you will not be lonely, have a life that is boring, nor will you find a time when you cannot keep yourself busy. You are an active woman with an active, creative mind.

Embrace 50. You've got a lot to give.

Sherry @ No Minimalist Here said...

Cindy, My mom once told me told me being in her 50's was the best years of her life. I thought this was crazy at the age of 30. Now that I am 56 I understand completely what she meant. Enjoy this phase of your life and only make changes that make you happy. Trust me, The 50's are pretty darn good!
Hugs, Sherry

Pam said...

Let me welcome you to the world of 50! Not so bad and my 50th b-day last Feb. was one of the best b-days I ever had. Enjoy and try not to think of getting old.

Terry @ La Bella Vie said...

Hi have never met you before but found you through another blog that lead to another blog then to you, and by the way you have a lovely blog!
Let me say, I am 53 and I love who I am! Don't get me wrong getting older is getting older but if you didn't have your birthday, think of the alternative...you'd be dead so cherish each BD!
Now the dating thing, when I finally said I wasn't going to go date, that was when I met my husband at a mutual friends wedding!
So just enjoy the entire process of life, don't force things to be what they aren't...

Blue Ridge Altered Art said...

I think what you need for your 50th is a trip to your favorite place and I beleive in one of your blogs you mentioned that was Martha's Vineyard. Getting away from it all might be just what you need to get things into perspective. When I turned 50, 10 years ago, that is what I did and I came back with a whole new view on turning 50. Took some of my girlie friends with me and we had the best time of our lives. We left kids and hubby's home (those of us who were married) and we felt like teenagers again. Turning 50 should be a memory making time.

Rhoda @ Southern Hospitality said...

Hey, Cindy, I haven't been by to leave a comment in awhile, so this seems like a good place to jump in.

I started blogging right after I turned 50, three years ago, so that's been such a positive for me, that I think 50 is pretty fabulous after all! Never dreaming that I would reinvent myself this much after turning 50, it's been a pleasant surprise.

And, I met my sweet hubby online 6 years ago and we've been married 5, so you never know what will happen with all of that. I SO remember the online dating thing. I did it for about 6 mos. & while it was fun at first, it began to get old after awhile. I was happy to get out of it & settle down again. In the meantime, enjoy yourself!

Jan Marie said...

Love the new look.

Susan said...

Cindy, You look FABULOUS. Congratulations on the weight loss. Good luck with the dating scene. You deserve the best. Sincerely, Susan

Heaven's Walk said...

Cindy ~ What an inspiring post today. I think that you shared what alot of us "50 and over" gals think about, fear, and have to deal with. Know that we are walking right beside you on your exciting journey! And believe and trust that a special man is out there somewhere and when the time is right, you'll meet him! :)

Oh, and love your haircut. Super cute! And I have to ask how you lost the weight? I'm always looking for the secret.... (sigh!)

Congrats and peace to you!

xoxo laurie@heavens-walk

Hi! I am LiLi! said...

you go girl! don't let a number stop you from doing anything good and fun!

advance happy birthday!

Anonymous said...

Guess what I did when I turned 50? Jumped out of an airplane, you gotta do it. I enjoy your blog, you got me decorating with cream colored mirrors, I love the look, thanks for the inspiration.

diana said...

you go gir... and enjoy the ride!

Susan Freeman said...

Hi Cindy! I think that it's wonderful that you are opening up to us. Bloggers become friends and life is more than decorating. We'll be around to listen. 50 is not fatal! It's the new 40. You are making some very positive changes. You'll find someone. Just make sure that he is worthy of you!!

Susan and Bentley

Anonymous said...

Your blogs is on my favorites.
I find ALL your posts interesting.
Congrats on your weight loss.
Love your new hair style. You
look awesome!

Cindy said...

Laurie, I lost it on Weight Watchers and working out. I run 2-4 miles on the treadmill almost every day!

Linda K. said...

LOL......Good for you Cindy!!

Designing Lady Jane said...

Cindy, those milestone numbers are good opportunities to take a long look at our lives and reevaluate where we are, who we are, and where we want to go from here. I've enjoyed your blog in its stages of leading us through your lovely home designing skills, but I've also enjoyed it as you've recounted your adventures in indulging in trips and outings, and your own personal makeover, including your reaching out for a more significant person in your life. You've been very open with sharing your experiences, good and bad, and have gathered a large and devoted fan base. Maybe some people want to keep you as they first learned to love you, but you can't let their interpretation of you hold you back from being the beautiful, well-rounded person you are, or the beautiful, well-rounded person you will be in the future. Best luck in all your endeavors, and welcome to the best decade, so far!

The Tablescaper said...

Congratulations on your birthday. You look wonderful and have a great view on where you're headed.

I love that you add your personal life to your blog. It makes it about you. Lots of people can decorate or arrange things beautifully. I love doing it too, but what makes your blog special is the addition of you.

Good luck with the dating. Men can be so bizarre - whether you're dating them or married to them. Hang in there and happy birthday.

- The Tablescaper

Tracie~MyPetiteMaison said...

Hi Cindy,
First, I love your hair!
About the other stuff, I get if! We only have one, very short life. It's best that life's enjoyed doing what we enjoy, not trying to please others.

I love decorating too, but really enjoy hearing more personal things from people too. The reason I read a blog is because I like the character of the person behind it. Happy week, happy changes... a good thing!

Miss Gracie's House said...

i am so with ya girl...oct for me...and I'm going through all of the same feelings...wondering what now? so I getcha...makes for interesting times:)

Unknown said...

Hi Cindy, I haven't commented in forever it seems. But I just have to say how vibrant, soft and beautiful you are and always will be. I love your new cut, so pretty and major hats off to your weight loss! I know your someone special is out there and when the time is right you will snag each other. I'll try to say hi more often.

Blessings ~ Debbie

Free Art Printables said...

Cindy.. you rock no matter what age you are! :)

Charlotte said...

99 comments. I can't believe it. You are such a popular blogger. I just wanted you to know I can relate to this post. Instead of me turning 50 though, my daughter turns 50 in October. She is single also. I know that makes it even harder. I remember when I turned 30 about 100 years ago, I hated it. 40 didn't bother me at all, 50 didn't bother me, but I hated 60. I thought well, looks like every 30 years will bother me so I figured the next time would be 90. I was wrong. 70 was worse than 60. Now I'm heading towards 80. I think I will just quit having birthdays. No, can't do that. Then I would be dead. Oh well, that's life.
Happy birthday to you. Hope I haven't depressed you too much. LOL

nina@themissadventuresofnina said...

I will pray that I look alf as good as you when you get tot hat age! Woo hooo sexy mama. LOL

I think we all crave change, and like you said, change is good. I wish you the best on the dating scene. I know that the guy thats meant for you is out there...and he wont be playing games.

liene said...

O my....it was sooo good to read this part,i just stumbled upon your blog...
I was thinking im"crazy" because i have these sorts off felling,
It is nice to know that other people have them too...
You look good ,dont worry!
It is very good to refresh bits of every step off life...it gives youfreedom to think that it is okey with changes....

Charlene said...

Fifty is just a number honey!!!! Don't let it play with your head. But, you should change when & what you want becasue you want to. And don't let any of those poops fuss at you about what your blog should have as content. IT'S YOUR BLOG! If they don't like to read what you have to say... they don't need to visit. But, I was shocked that someone would dare to make a comment on what you post! You go girl with whatever you want. ENJOY every moment... none of us are promised a thing. That's why life is the/a present. HUGS! Charlene

Anonymous said...

You look fabulous Cindy! I love that your blog has a personal touch. One of the reasons why I don't have a blog is because I don't think I would cope well with nasty comments...over senstive that's me!


Tammy/Yesterday's Cottage said...

Hats off to you for re-inventing yourself, your home, your life. It's a very positive way to channel any jitters about turning 50! Besides, 50 is the new 35! I'll reach this milestone myself next year, and I hope I can do some equally positive things - again, you're an inspiration!
As for the guy on the white horse - what a shmuck. But, better to know that early on! I have a feeling you will find someone special who will make you very happy.

Lallee said...

You look wonderful! The fifties turned out to be one of my most favorite decades. I've been in the sixties for a year now, so I'll break that decade in for you ;-)

ChandraT said...

I love hearing about "you" and not just decorating. I think the way you change things up and test new waters is very brave of you!
All the best,

Patti said...
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Geovanna said...

Hi Cindy:

Look, I think gives us all such situations when we go to birthday, me for example at 40 I did a party with my boyfriend with balloons, ribbons around the room, confetti and candy and all that kid stuff lol, I still take time to meet my 50, but have come to my mind a lot of thoughts of suicide, "say my children - I have planned for February 2011 Chirripo climb the hill, is one of the highest in Central America, is located in our country. I think these as much rope as possible, so go ahead, we must not lose heart.

Greetings from Tiquicia and invite you to visit, I'll take the Chirripo jijijijji

Saludos desde Costa Rica

Misborda2 said...

Hello, the truth is that I visit your blog often, and I love it, because everything that is of extraordinary beauty samples and show your special gift for decoration.
It is the first time I encourage you to leave a comment, and it was to tell you it's true every stage of life are changing and new things, and to some extent uncertain, but everything has its charm, so enjoy those "50" , sure to be as great as the events so far.
And the knight on the white horse, "do not know what is lost."
Sorry my English at base translator!!
Hugs, Laura.

Karin said...

You look absolutely stunning, Cindy!
I had no idea this was an "age" thing, but I'm so glad I read some of the comments because I'll be 50 in September too and it sure explains a lot! {I had forgotten it was right around the corner:)} I'm feeling kind of restless and kind of an urgency to declutter and get this house in order all at once ~ Goodness, our hormones sure wreak havoc on us during different life stages, don't they? :)

sunshinecity said...

So many comment,s I'm not even sure you'll get to mine.
I'm a rather new reader, but have enjoyed your taes of home decor, travel and changes in your life.

For one, change can be a good thing, as you've said yourself.
I think anything you do, if it feels right at the time you decide to do it, then that's ok.
Sometimes we change and grow and what once suited us no longer does, a few years down the line. Other times there will be decisions we'd do over and over.

You seem to be doing great and you sure as hell surprised me when you revealed your age!

I don't know if you've ever been to Europe, but if you're looking for the ultimate "change", try comparing what you're used to with what you see in Italy (where I'm from). You're sure in for a cultre shock there... and then your changes won't seem so odd!
: )

Anonymous said...

Great post! Thank you for posting this. Those milestones can be scary can't they! I'm approaching my 50th too, and in that paring down mode as well...I think someone said it's a 50 thing, LOL. For me 25 was my crisis year! But I made it through that, 30, and 40, and since they say 50 is the new 30, I'm just not going to worry about that one. You shouldn't either. You are a beautiful and talented woman and I'm sure the best is yet to come. Surround yourself with all that makes you happy....and if you want to try parachuting from a plane...do it! That's how I got through my 25 crisis...scariest fun I ever had! ~Sheilla

Esther Sunday said...

Cindy - unfortunately, I was FORCED to miss Roberto's triumph, so watched it last night. So, it is today that I am basking in all that is Roberto. So, today -

Way to go, Roberto!


Unknown said...

Cindy, Your new look is fantastic!!!

Good luck and be safe!


Unknown said...

Hey Cindy,

I left a message yesterday, but it doesn't appear to be showing up. NOt sure why, but I wanted to tell you that I think you look GREAT!! I LOVE your positive attitude toward change, and I think it's wonderful that you've entered into the very scary world of dating! Which site are you using?

I also wanted to add that anyone who has been posting negative comments to you because they don't like you talking about something other than decorating should just click, "next blog!" It's YOUR blog, and you are entitled to write about whatever pleases YOU! Those who don't like it should keep their negativity to themselves and just read another blog that day. NO biggie, right?

I LOVE your blog because YOU write it....not just about decorating, but you learn about a person through their blog. I like you as person and therefore I enjoy your blog.

Anyway, I was wondering if you ever received my email a couple of weeks ago about painting on metal? I have a small brownish colored birdcage that I want to paint white, but I don't know if I have to use something other than the white paint first or not. Would you recommend using a paint brush or spray painting it? Thanks, Cindy!!

Michele R.(CA)
Luvkittysfandf at Gmail dot com
Butterfly Whispers

Judith said...

Happy 50th, Cindy! Love you blog. Re the online dating - at least you have the courage to do.

Anonymous said...

I think what you're going through is normal. I just jumped out of an airplane (tandem parachute) this past May because I just turned 39. I realized that I haven't been doing things I want to do because life has been busy. Change is good. Embrace it and enjoy. Many blessings!

Rita's Recipes said...

I'm sure your parachute will be prettier than any other.
Change is what life is all about. Let it be It your decision where to "Move your cheese".
Cheers! Rita

Magoo said...

I also like many others can't believe your almost 50! I have to say "I love the variety the blog offers! and can't wait to see whats coming up. So no worries...

Cindy~ said...

I'll be 52 in September and had never accepted being 50 until oh, last month?! Haha ....It doesn't matter to me really. My skins still firm, my knees don't hurt and I still look at life like a teenager. I figure they must call it the Golden Years for a reason. I'm looking forward to finding out why, God willin' (:

Anonymous said...

Well, I have to admit that my reasons for following your blog are all about "My Romantic Home", not "My romantic personal life". It certainly is your blog and you are entitled to blog as you wish but I have been debating whether to continue following. People's lives and priorities do change, as yours seems to have. I'm assuming that many followers are simply not interested in much of what you've shared in the past few months, thus your plea not to have "rude" comments left. I don't mean to be rude, but can't help but feel I am just as entitled to my opinion and find it interesting that you would define this difference as rude. Hmmm. I do wish you luck with your personal pursuits and have very much enjoyed your Romantic Home.

Olivia said...

Well, you look great and everyone needs to live a little. Blog about whatever you want. I love shabby furniture, but I also love to read personal stuff, just makes it more real. Good luck with men, go for the nice guys, eventually you'll find a good one!

Cafolee said...

I understand totally about the decade thing! It sometimes hits me on the 5s too! Making changes in your life is a very positive thing - we need updating occasionally. You are looking fabulous and have gained the wisdom to see people well (as in the meeting and dating scene). Hang in there, keep learning and living and great things are in store for you. Hugs!

Andrea at Opulent Cottage said...

Just so you know, I came to your blog this morning hoping for an update - I love reading about your personal adventures! I just turned 49, so I totally get it. Even though I'm happily married, it's a great time in life to take stock of what we want to improve upon for the second half of our lives!! You look so great, it's really an inspiration for us, at any age.

Lynn said...

First of all, you look Fantastic!!!!
Second, don't give up on men, there are some really good ones out there:) I have been married to one for 30 years.
I must admit I loved my 40's a lot, and now at 52 I hope I can say the same thing when I turn 60 :)

crafterwannabe said...

Yes, you do look great. The best is yet to come. Stick with the dating site. I was on the site....POF...plenty of fish...for 3 years. You will probably have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince. Just be patient and also be careful. I have been married to my prince that I met on POF...for a year. We bought a home in the country , close to the city where our kids are and are having a great time. Good luck.

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Burlap Luxe said...

Cindy, "I am there with you girl"
We have so much in common in many things, and our life ventures.

Don't worry you look fabulous with the new hair style and color. Birthday are really just another number, and don't let the number change you. One thing I too am a single girl as well and right their with you I have noticed this time around the guy's now got "older" what happened, were still young :) but they got old and bald.. He he, he !!

Sport that T-shirt This is what 50! L@@KS LIKE !!

Don't worry that he did not call you back, he will when he gets the nerve to call back a beautiful woman, if he does not call back then its his loss :)
Your right to say "Men"!!
Hang in there girl and if you find 2 great guys send one over to ME!!!

Donna@Conghaile Cottage said...

Oh Cindy! HUGS to you!!! Relax, it IS a number... I'm going to be 56 in September, and I "Like it here"... I find that each decade that passes I am happier and more content with myself, I can look back at "Previous Me" and LAUGH at things that I used to worry about... Your a "Beautiful Lady Cindy", Giant HUGS, Donna

Jan @ BellaCasa said...

Well, all I can say it that your new look is fabulous. I have a friend that is going through a divorce and can't even think about dating again. You certainly do a lot of running, girl! Keep up the good work!


Anonymous said...

Doing much the same, for much the same reasons, as you know. :) We are SO much more than we were way back when we met, isn't it amazing? I'm proud of us. All of us. :)


Lydia said...

Life only begins to get fun at 50! Congrats.

Eileen said...

You look fabulous. and Happy Birthday. I enjoy your blog, and will be back regularly. Love the personal touch too.

The Single Nester said...

You look terrific and your blog is a peaceful reflection of you. Lighter, shorter hair, blonder and dating. All good things.

- Brittany aka Pretty Handy Girl said...

I'm a new follower. And thanks for the little insight into your life. I think it makes your site all the more personal! I hope you do go skydiving. I did it years ago and loved every second of it (it goes by quick.)

Enjoy and I don't think you look 50, much closer to late 30's or early 40's!

Good luck on the dating scene. I am so much of a "things happen for a reason person."


Pink Roses and Teacups said...

Hi Cindy,

You look fabulous! Hey, change can be a good thing! Love your new haircut. My mom always said to me;
"Happiness is like a butterfly, the more you chase it the more it will elude you; but if you turn your mind to other things, it comes and sits softly on your shoulder". Mr. Right will come when you least expect it.

Debbie from NJ

Sweet Cottage Dreams said...


All I can say is this:


Go where your heart leads you....
Where your insides tug for you to follow...
Listen to your inner voice...
And please, oh please, don't let others foggy up your spirit. ONLY YOU know your heart...know what makes your spirit soar and your heart leap.....My favorite line out of Meet Joe Black is this:

Sing with rapture
and dance like a dirvish.

So do just that.... you know YOU like nobody else. Enjoy your life as it is NOW. Enjoy!!! Giggle and just have fun with it!

Right behind you at 50's back door...

your friend,

L-O-V-E your new hair style. Totally cool and so cute!!!

Lynn said...

Hi Cindy, I have been following you for about a year or more and in that year have seen you become younger looking, happier, and growing in another direction, which is all normal, no matter what the age, if we do not grow we stagnate, lol. So I don't have a clue what all this fuss in about what you blog. I love all the positive changes you have shown us.With 138 comments ahead of mine, I know there are lots and lots of followers that applaude you loud and long. As for "Mr White Horse", his loss!!

sonia tolfo said...

Cindy, I have 64 years and do not understand your concern with making 50. You're in great shape, beautiful with this hairstyle, this color and this smile. Today, we won things at 40, 50, 60, 70 that our mothers or imagined. Live with joy, be careful - if, much love to everyone and everything and your life will always be beautiful!

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Sonia said...

Funny post...
I just seperated well, been more then 9 months now and I joined a dating site. Feels weird already to add the ....hmm men!! can never understand them...lol


Lori said...

So get you been there! Turn the ugly 5 - 1 next month, still not dealing with that first number! Men, ugh, at this stage in the game its about me and what I want for me, they are a burden I'd rather pass by. Well..unless they are 30something. maybe 40something and secure in who they are!! Have a great day when it comes, very cute do! I did the same recently and am adding a few strands of teal before the my day, 9 - 13! Best wishes, Lori

Sue said...

I've loved reading your blog for years, thanks for that joy.

I turned fifty last year, it is something else, isn't it?

You look wonderful, so happy for your healthy new habits.

Kelly @ Much To Do With Nothing said...

Hi Cindy,
50's not so bad. I just turned 54.
I think 40 is young too. I met the my husband when I was 47 and we got married right after my 50th birthday. I was a single mom for 20years!! and loved every minute of it. You look great! Good for you, changing with your moods and feelings.

Tracy M. said...

You Go Girl!! You look great and you should blog about whatever you like. You've earned it.
Take Care,
Tracy M.

Jeannie-JB said...

You look far closer to 40 than 50 - very beautiful, too. Hard to understand how anyone could say anything regarding what you blog about on Your blog. That would make me so mad! BTW, I really love your blog.

Good luck with the dating thing - hope you find just what your looking for and he's the real deal.