I have been tagged by Ruth at Whispering Oaks Cottage with the 7 weird or random facts about me. I think this is about the 7th time I've been tagged with this!
Here are the rules:
1 Once you are tagged, link back to the person who tagged you.
2. Post THE RULES on your blog.
3. Post 7 weird or random facts about yourself on your blog.
4. Tag 7 people and link to them.
5. Comment on their blog to let them know they have been tagged.
If you've been reading my blog a long time then you may already know these things about me. Some of you may not and wonder how and why I'm a single mom. So here's some very personal information about me.
1. I married my high school sweetheart, waited about 7 years to have my son and then we divorced when he was two years old. It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to go through in my life. I did not want the divorce at all!
2. I was a stay at home mom with my son until his dad and I divorced and then I had to go back to work. I loved staying home and I would still choose that over working full time!
3. I married my second husband about 3 years after my divorce. I had my daughter the first year we were married and we separated when she was 6. This was a not-so good marriage. I won't say it was bad because there were some good times but there were some really bad times. Still, I was devastated when I found out he was cheating on me.
4. My separations were exactly 10 years apart. Both left me to move in with the other woman.
5. This December will be 10 years since my last separation and 20 years since the first. The good thing is I haven't remarried so I can't go through it again!
6. As you can tell, I'm unlucky in love and I'm a bad judge of character when it comes to finding good men. I've never cheated while in any relationship but I sure seem to attract the men who do!
7. I don't date anyone now because I have my daughter full time and I have no desire to leave her at home while I go out on dates. When she's 18 I'll consider dating again but I'm not sure if I'll ever get married again. I've become very independent...probably too much so! Although if I ever met a truly wonderful man and fell in love, nothing else would matter!
Updated: After I posted this and reread it, it sounds so depressing. I just feel like I should say that I'm very happy with my life now. I'm actually happier now than ever!
I'm not going to tag anyone but if you would like to join in, please feel free to!
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
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Cindy,
You want depressing, I'll give you depressing.
I have been a single mom for 19 of my son's 21 years. I only dated briefly and that was about 2 weeks. I haven't really had the desire to date while raising my son. I don't know if I well ever. My sister and I talk about living together when we get old. She too is a single woman in her mid 50's. Sometimes I miss companionship and other times I think it's a pain in the bum. So, don't think your alone in this, I'm right there along side you in the no man in my like. My one and only marriage lasted 3 years, and that was too long. But it produced I great child and that's all I need in my life for now.
So, enjoy yourself in your life. And if you are happier now than you have ever been you have yourself to thank.
Keep smiling and decorating and you will be fine.
Glenda
God Bless You, Sweetie! I had that with #! and then even though he only lived 5 minutes from us, he totally abandoned the kids. I even had to get his wages garnered for child support.
I was single for 12 years and had become very content and satisfied. that's when God brought John into my life....took me by surprise. We've been married for almost 6 years. He's the best thing since sliced bread :-)
So you keep you independent spirit and be happy,,,,,but leave yourself open to possibilities. A companion might just be around the corner....one never knows....
Make sure you run him by us though first....we will watch your back! LOL ((hugs)) Rosie
Hi Cindy - been popping in once and a while and was touched by how open you have been on this post. You deserve the best! Glad you are at your happiest and feel so independent! Although, I bet, one day you will bump into that special someone out there that is waiting just for you! Love, Esther
The 'up' side of all this...it has made you who you are today, and I bet you are a stronger woman for it! Just live your life happily, and we are thankful you share your talents with us everyday!
Sue
Cindy,
Anyone who reads your blog on a regular basis knows that you are anything BUT depressed. I have no doubt that when you are ready for a man, he will be there. Just because your "picker" was a tad broken once or twice, doesn't mean that it will always be. ;)
Cindy: I don't think your story sounds depressing ... sure, it's very sad that you had to go through all the garbage but hey ... it's history. And you have a wonderful life right now. Plus you are just being very honest and open about your life too! Thanks for sharing.
~~Mary Jane~~
i havent dated in years and have no desire to..I too am a bad judge of men when it comes to marriage..so my first marriage was my last..I love it this way..
Cindy,
Been there, done that myself with young kids an a cheating husband. I think being an independent woman is the best revenge and when you least expect it some wonderful guy *may* come along and appreciate you for your strength and independence. Meanwhile keep on decorating and entertaining us, we all appreciate you :)
Janet
Cindy,
The same as 'Sue' that what you are these days is so beautiful.
I read your blog from the other side of the world.
Mol
What I see as positive is that you have learned to live alone and be happy being with yourself. Too many women think they have to have a man in their lives to feel complete and they jump into one bad relationship after another.
You will be in a much better position, when you start dating, again. I think your perspective will be better. If you find a nice guy and decide to be with him, it won't be out of need, but because he really is the perfect guy.
You deserve the BEST!
~elaine~
roz_etta@yahoo.com
You have taken what live threw at you and turned it into a new lovely life...Our past is so similar,,, you are such a blessing to so many of us with you beauty and grace....Gods Blessings on you my dear...
Hugs
Linda
As a child of divorced parents I can relate to your feelings...my Mother went through a similar situation TWICE and she is happily married to her 3rd husband...sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs....the Lord puts the right people in our life when the time is right...it might now be right now. I appreciate your candor in this post...
Blessings,
Robin
Cindy...
My story is much like yours. Married High School Sweetheart. We waited to start our family until we finished college. Had 2 wonderful sons, but he wanted a daughter. Third time is charm.. had a precious daughter and when she was 18 months old.....out he went. I, too, was devastated... I had lost both parents and going through that divorce was the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
Since I was teaching, and my children at school would come and tell me.."Joe, was my daddy this week, Sam will be my daddy next week"...that hurt me so much that I made the decision not to date, get in any relationship...just be the best Mom I could possible be to three children, who needed their Dad. I was known for saying "I'll NEVER get married again".... 19 years passed and low and behold, I met "Mr. Right"... We were married 9 years ago...everyday is like we are on our honeymoon. I'm retired from teaching and loving every moment.
My advice is to never say NEVER. There's someone out there for you if that's what you want. I, of all people, don't feel your story was depressing. I applaud you for telling it. We all have friends who offer advice...but unless they've walked in your shoes... no one has any idea how hurtful divorce can be.
Thanks again for being so bold as to share....
There are many of us that have "been there, done that". Myself included, I made some bad choices, as I was to trusting. Live & learn. The good that came out of a couple of bad marriages, is 2 beautiful children (now grown) & my grandchildren. I love my independence, & being able to eat, sleep, etc., when I want to & not having to explain every move I make. I gave up on the dating scene long ago. Enjoy your life! What is that saying "This is not a dress rehersal". Glenda
Cindy, I don't think your post sounds depressing. Anyone who reads your blog regularly (like me!) will be able to tell that you are a healthy, whole person. I think waiting to date until your daughter is 18 is commendable. But don't short change yourself! If the right person comes along, he will understand the fact that you don't want to leave your daughter. Any man who doesn't understand that isn't the right one! Cheryl in California
Cindy, It is such a joy seeing you find happiness inspite of your pain and heartache. Thank you for sharing your creative beautiful home with so many others! xoRachel
Hi Cindy, It didn't really sound depressing because as a regular reader of your blog I know that you enjoy your life as it is now.
Alison
Cindy,
I so agree with what Elaine said. thank you for being so honest and sharing your life with us. I also have had a bad marriage behind me.
Also a single mom with a 3 yr old for many yrs.. Happily married now for 28 yrs. When and if you are ready you will find him.
Cindy,
Thanks for sharing your story. Like many have mentioned before, as a regular reader I know that you are not depressed or depressing. I love dropping by to see what you are up to every day or so. Keep up the pretty work thaty you bless us with.
Hugs,
Sue
Any man would be more than lucky to have you...the key is to stay away from the ones too dumb to know it...which it sounds like you have figured out well enough on your own!!
If it is meant to be, it will, and you will be a wiser, seasoned partner, which goes a long way towards success. I'm sure singledom won't be forever... you are too pretty, smart and nice...but if it is, you are successful, happy, and well-loved by friends and family, so either way, you win!!
Oh, and just a thought...a man would probably just mess up your beautiful home anyway!!!
Linda
xoxo
I don't think your post is depressing. Far from it. It sounds hope-full. I've spelt it like that because your post has given me hope. I'm just emerging from a husband of 20 years who decided to walk out on me and three children. But, the amazing thing is, now six months later, I really wouldn't have him back. (That took me by surprise, I can tell you!).
It's lovely to hear you're happier than ever. Great stuff.
Interestingly, the Yarn Harlot blogged about being on her own (in the middle of a woods, no less) and in a lot of the comments (there were over 500) many women said they'd love "alone time", but they'd take the dog! Yup, me too. :)
Well done, Cindy.
Sorry Cindy - not sure why my comment is anonymous. I've done something wrong, I'm sure! LOL!
Hi Cindy,
I think you are such a brave and wonderful person and you sure deserve great happiness.
I can understand what you been through and how you felt, but to me you are such a happy person, you are shining and you are pure positive energy to me.
I am 33 years old, I separated form my husband when my son was 4 months old. That was the hardest thing ever. I was trying to divorce for almost 5 years. I finally did it recently and I am happier than ever.
I think that not all of us are made to have luck in love, our purpose is much more important. Of course it is nice to be loved, but this still will come, I am sure. You are on the right way, because after these hard life lessons maybe you wouldn’t bring so much sunshine to so many people. We love you Cindy!
Suzy
Hello from Ireland
I loved this post...The fact that you can come out of this a better, happier person is proof that there is life after divorce and heartbreak.
i have seen it happen time and time again with friends and family, women are SO STRONG..I don't think we realise just how much strength we have.As mothers, wives, single moms..whatever our roles.
So..heres to you Cindy!
Well done!
:-)
Hi again, Just wanted to let you know I tagged you for an Archive Meme. Stop by for a visit if you'd like to play along :-) Rosie
Cindy,
I liked reading your entry, and I admire you for being such a good mom. Glad you're happy too.
Rose
I don't think your story is depressing at all. I am so glad you have found happiness despite what happened long ago. Besides, you have wonderful children from your marriages! Not to mention how strong you are because of what you've gone through.
I think too that you are wise to not date until your daughter is 18. That to me is admirable, and so wise on your part.
I always love visiting your gorgeous blog.
Hi Cindy,
I often pop in and visit you but I don't always leave a comment. I was so suprised by your open honesty on this post and just wanted to say that I admire you very much. Your strength shines through like a beacon even here in this quiet sheltered world of Blog.
Hugs,
Dena
Cindy, first time I've read your blog but a great time to stop by. I think you are a very beautiful woman who would share herself!!! I, too had a very bad first marriage. He too ran around on me and I thought I would die from the hurt of it. We divorced and two years later I remarried. I have been married 25 years and he is my prince charming. But we have worked to make a good marriage... I like the comment to "keep your options open". Love will come again. Blessings dear. Peg
Hey Cindy, maybe it is California men that are the problem! Change states! (just joking). Sometimes alone is better, you sound content and happy and your blog is so lovely, you are witty and talented too. Thanks for being out there. Cathy
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